Commitment vs. Complete Lack of Commitment

You don't change who you are or sacrifice your values to be with someone. I've evolved since my days of love stories with the girls I dated in high school. So much so that I literally didn't date anyone almost my entire time in college. There are several contributing factors to this, but the main one is that I care about people too much. I can care about a person to the point that their concerns are my concerns that their dreams are my dreams. I tend to get invested is what I'm trying to say. I'm giving by nature. With all this said, college is not a place that nurtures relationships, its a place that rips them apart.

A successful relationship with me has only happened when the two of us were both on the same accord before we began dating. Not Mr. and Ms. Right, just that we had a genunine friendship before dating was even considered and it just evolved into a relationship. Those are the most successful ones in my opinion. The one where the other person is practically your best friend. My downfall however, is that despite being single, I still become invested in girls. When you give more than one person your heart a piece of you ends up being everywhere. I think thats part of why guys that are truly happy have either a narrow focus on one person or a "fuck-it" attitude towards anything that moves because they're invested in that core belief. They "stand" by it as I mentioned in an earlier post. Whereas for us in the middle we walk a path of impulse. We let our feelings guide us without swaying too far to either side.

Commitment vs. Complete lack of commitment is what it can boil down to. I'm at the point now to where I no longer shy away from commitment nor do I seek it. "With so much personality what do you want from me? I could be by myself and enjoy the company." as Kanye West once said. Perhaps not as "douch-baggish" as he said it, but in part I feel this way sometimes. I'm ready to accept opportunity, but I've learned to not force it to occur, but instead allow it to appear.